Speak Your Fans’ Love Language – Words of Affirmation
Love is in the air and we’ve got hearts in our eyes, so we want to share a bit of psychology to help you better connect to your fans and find out what really makes them swoon.
So let’s get all science-y. Psychology tells us that there are five distinct “Love Languages”, i.e. different ways that people respond to love. While that’s certainly useful for intimate relationships, understanding the love languages and how people respond to them can help you better target your fans and give them something they’re really going to respond to.
Words of Affirmation
Everyone loves to hear a kind word, right? Well for some people, kind words are THE way to communicate love. How can you use this to appeal to your fans? We’ve got some ideas.
For Your Fans
DM a sweet message
DMs don’t have to be about content. You can send a DM about anything, so it may be worth a shot to send a bulk message to your fans just to say hello. Once you do that, see who responds. Those are the fans that may just jump at the chance to buy some exclusive locked content from you next!
And DMs can be about ANYTHING. Think about the things you text the people you’re closest to…pretty mundane, huh? Try a “What’s up?” message, send a “Hi” or “Thinking of you.” If you’re checking your DMs every day it’ll be easy to see who responds to those messages, and you can follow up with a piece of paid-to-view content.
Did you know...you can send pay-to-open text messages via DM? Just remember to send ONLY text, once you attach media everything you write becomes visible!
Post a Thank You blog
Fans LOVE to know who you are as a person. It helps them feel connected to you, and one of the easiest and most effective ways to do that is with a free Feed blog post. Take five minutes and share a few words of thanks. Tell your fans how much you appreciate them and how grateful you are for their support. Follow that with a piece of locked content. If your fans use words of affirmation as their love language, they’re MUCH more likely to keep clicking and buying a feed subscription.
Engage with your Fans
Check your DMs, and we can’t stress this enough, EVERY DAY. The fans who send you messages wanting to chat? Those are the ones who really feel words of affirmation. Now we know you can’t possibly have a crazy-long dialogue with every fan that slides into your DMs, but making a little effort to respond when you can could pay off big time later.
In Your Relationship
Practicing words of affirmation in a relationship is more than just saying, “I love you.” It’s about really connecting with your partner and understanding what they need to hear, not just what you want to say.
Reward Their Hard Work
Giving your partner validation is a great way to share words of affirmation. Think about the different ways you can send them a positive message. “Your job is so lucky to have you,” or “You’re an amazing cook,” can be just as sweet as those three little words.
Give them Something to Smile About
Remember those sweet DMs we mentioned above? Don’t just save them for your fans. If your partner speaks in words of affirmation, take a minute each day to send them an unexpected kind word. Even something as simple as, “I can’t wait to see you,” can fill their soft spot and make your evening reunion that much better.
Be Sincere
One of the easiest traps in practicing words of affirmation is making your messages a chore rather than a habit. Insincerity can leak out very easily, so don’t push yourself to find something to compliment your partner on, make sure it’s a message you truly want to convey.
Stay tuned to find out more about the next in our Love Language series tomorrow!!!
Stay tuned to find out more about the next in our Love Language series tomorrow and read more about all of the Love Languages here!!!
